Get Your Ex Back - When to Speak

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Getting your ex back requires many steps, but the first step is SILENCE. Yes, silence. Most people make the crucial mistake of rushing to get their ex back with constant phone calls, texts, letters and 'chance meetings'. It makes sense as to why people do this, obviously the thought process shows that surely if you speak to your ex about how sorry you are or how much you want him or her back then you stand more chance of getting your ex back.

This is incorrect.

You must NOT speak to your ex or initiate contact in any way for at least 30 full days. This is absolutely essential to getting your ex back. This can be extremely hard, especially at first but it really is essential. You cannot look at getting your ex back when you are still in touch, it will simply result in you seeming needy and not allowing your ex to step back from the situation and see what they are possibly missing out on or losing.

You have to let your ex have a full month without you so they can have time to realise what they miss about you. Think about it - If you're calling up every day and arguing over why you should still be together then all your ex sees and remembers are the things he or she doesn't like about you and that's going to push you even further apart. However, if there is no contact there then it gives your ex a change to mull over the things they miss about you and realise the gaps that have been left without you.

No matter what anyone tells you, this is solid advice that HAS to be followed - No contact at all, no matter how hard that may seem to be!

After the 30 days you can rebuild contact slowly. There is no point waiting a month and then bombarding your ex again with dozens of calls and text messages. Slowly introduce the odd conversation here and there and slowly ease back into their life. Keep the topic of conversation neutral, friendly and even fun, but do not instantly start mentioning the break up, getting together again or even how much you have missed them. Just start slowly and see where it ends up and you'll slowly be taking the right route to getting your ex back.

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Ilona Benes has 1 articles online

Why is getting your ex back so important to you? Because a good relationship is one of the most treasured of human interactions. We all want to be loved. There are the great times together, the shared dreams and visions, the mutual likes and dislikes and more. Great relationships are essential for enjoying a good quality of life. They color everything else around us.

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This article was published on 2010/03/30
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