Save Your Relationship - How to Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back

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That question gets asked a great deal following a split. The problem is that most people, when trying to get their ex-boyfriends back, tend to resort to tactics that accomplish exactly the opposite of the desired result.

The more overly anxious you appear to get your ex-boyfriend back, the more you're going to push him away. It's human nature to attempt to get away from someone that seems overly clingy or desperate; it's never attractive, and it usually just makes things worse.

The following strategy can help quite a bit:

1) Stop calling/texting/emailing constantly. The barrage of pleading -- and oftentimes that's exactly what it comes off as, pleading -- is almost inevitably utterly off-putting and makes the matter worse than it would have been normally. It's not pretty. It will never be pretty.

2) Don't attempt to make him feel sorry for you. Pity isn't a good reason to restore contact with someone, and it's not a good foundation for a healthy relationship.

3) Break off contact for a while. Give everything a breather and focus on you, rather than on restoring the relationship and getting him back. This isn't going to be easy. It's going to require discipline. Focusing on strengthening and improving yourself, however, will show positive results.

Breaking off contact for a while will shift the way your ex feels about you, since you won't be chasing him anymore. Instead, you're going to become more mysterious to him; he won't be sure what you're doing, thinking, or feeling. Believe it or not, this can actually work in your favor! If you're smothering him, he's sure as hell not going to miss you. If you're not in contact with him at all, he can actually start to miss having you as part of his life.

Working with human nature rather than against it will always produce better results in the end, so long as you're willing to put in the proper effort.

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Courtney Montgomery is a freshman relationship blogger. More information and tips can be found at her relationship blog

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This article was published on 2010/04/01
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